Do you know how many times I have had to start over in my life?
“Some examples please, Sean.”
Relationships: Dating a girl I thought was “the one” only to find out she wasn’t, breaking up, and starting over single.
Health: Working out and feeling great, getting injured and losing all my strength, starting over with rehab.
Money: Building up a sizable savings account, only to blow it foolishly over the course of a year, starting over from dollar one.
I’ve lost count on how many times in my life I’ve had to start over.
Anyone who is at the top of their game, who is willing to be honest with you, will share some variation of this reality.
Sometimes life is intense and difficult to keep up with. And other times it can be tedious and mind-numbing. Sometimes we intentionally mess shit up in our life just because we want to start from scratch.
Who among us hasn’t fantasized burning something down and rebuilding it from the ground up?
I recently did this with an issue that was plaguing me for years: my website.
In the late 90′s, I had an advanced website for that time period. I would work on it daily and I was proud of it. As the years went by, I became disenfranchised by my site. My interest waned because of challenges that surfaced: host company went under, webmaster not being attentive enough, etc. I went from being proud to ashamed of the look and functionality of my site. I know this is awful to admit, but I didn’t even care.
Once apathy sets in, things get ugly.
The only remedy to apathy is starting over.
Maybe you don’t need to burn it down, but sometimes you do need to start fresh.
Recently, I created a site that I’m proud of again.
Is it perfect? No.
But I love it.
Starting over only sucks if you associate it with
failure.” <- Click to Tweet
Me personally? I associate starting over with learning, growing, and innovating.
Here’s my secret formula for starting over:
1. Forgive yourself. Sure you could have done it differently or better, so what? You can’t have a fresh start if you’re holding on to what’s rotting (your past).
2. Look back and learn. What can you take from your past that will help you start over stronger in the present?
3. Act fast. Take action so quickly that your fear-brain doesn’t have a chance to talk you out of it.
So you have to start over 3, 33, or 3,003 times… If you eventually hit your goal, does it matter?
Whatever you’re seeking, whether it’s a healthy body, dream career, lots of money, or lasting love, it’s waiting patiently for you to claim it.
Leave me a comment below and tell me where in your life you’ve had to, or need to, start over?