We crave what we give ourselves most. I’ve fought this statement for years. In fact, I desperately want to disprove it, but I can’t.
Be it pizza, heroin, or meditation, your mind/body will begin to crave whatever thing or activity you continually expose it to.
I’ve seen this demonstrated hundreds of times in the lives of my therapy clients and countless times in my own life.
Mindie and I live near a local coffee shop. They bake awesome homemade chocolate chip cookies. For months, we’d make lame excuses why we’d need to go over to the coffee shop. Once there, we’d of course have to get a cookie. Come on… we were supporting local commerce. :)
The more cookies we’d have, the more cookies we’d need, or so it felt. Then Mindie went on a 30 day cleanse. No sugar! For a while, it was upsetting that she couldn’t have cookies with me. Once, maybe twice, I went over and got one by myself. Slowly but surely I stopped buying cookies. Weeks went by with no cookies until one day the thought of a cookie wasn’t even appealing.
Take sex, especially for men. You can go a very long time without sex IF you aren’t having it. However, once you begin having it, the mind and body become accustomed to the experience. An abrupt absence feels like quite a shock.
If sex or cookies aren’t your thing, I can see you thinking I’m crazy, but here’s why I’m not…
Given enough exposure to something the mind and body can be trained to have cravings for nearly anything.
Here’s an empowering example:
For several years now I’ve made physical exercise a priority in my life. Yet there are days I absolutely do NOT want to workout. The more I skip the gym, the easier it gets to keep skipping the gym. This is because you crave whatever you give yourself most, even laziness. I decided to workout every single day for an entire month, just as an experiment. After 30 days, going to the gym took no effort; it became a craving. A few weeks after the experiment I decided to take a week off. That week was just enough time to start craving lethargy.
The mind and body are powerful.
If you want something to be a dominant force in your life, simply get repeat exposure to it. <- Click to Tweet
Read books about it, hang out with people that love talking about it, put up pictures in your home/office about it, travel to destinations that make it the centerpiece of their culture.
Focus the mind on one thing and it will become your everything. I want to know, what positive things do you crave, how did you install that craving? Leave me a comment.